The Art of Letting Go

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Not too long ago, a small Japanese woman took the world by storm, all due to a book she had written “The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up.”

What is the art of tidying up?  In a nutshell, it’s de-cluttering your home and living a more minimal lifestyle.  It’s a way of organizing, sorting, cleaning, and discarding things in your home. 

She has very simple rules of “tidying” up. The most important one – Ask yourself if it sparks joy.

This idea has moved people to start cleaning out their closets, drawers, garages, attics – and getting rid of things in their lives that no longer spark joy.

However, Marie Kondo isn’t the first person to suggest we let go of things and move on.  In essence, she’s telling you what God has been trying to tell us for generations – and that is to let go.

I think there’s a vast spiritual connection here. If our body is the temple of the Lord, what kind of environment have we created for Him inside of us?

I think a lot of us may be good at keeping house, looking like we have it all together on the outside – but what about the inside? Is it full of clutter and mess?  Or is it a home that allows God to have space to work, create, and thrive inside of us?

The bible teaches us that if we want to be followers of Christ, that we have to repent, be baptized, and live our lives for Him. 

When we repent – we decide that we no longer want to live the way we are living in sin, and we are going to turn away from the lifestyle of the world.  Or, we’re going to get rid of things that clutter our lives.

When we are baptized – we start over, with a clean slate. We’ve allowed Jesus to cleanse us, to get rid of all the mess inside. It’s a new start.

Problem is – over a lifetime, we accumulate things we just aren’t sure we can get rid of.

When we did our own version of Marie Kondo’s Tidying Up, I found myself staring at 50+ items of clothing in my closet.  I pulled it all out and went through each item.  After I went through everything, I realized my “let go” pile was still awfully small

But why?  Why are we so hesitant to let go of things?  Maybe you spent a lot of money on something.  Maybe it holds sentimental value.  Maybe you just really like it.  Whatever the case may be, we have a hard time letting go.  We almost need someone to come in and say “It’s just stuff. It’s okay to let it go.”

We struggle the same way with the clutter in our lives.  This is where our relationship with God comes in.  We need HIS help to let go.  We need HIS help to come in and make us clean.  We can’t purge all the sin in our life without Him.

What ends up happening a lot of times when we de-clutter our homes, is that we get rid of some things, and then we end up going out and replacing all those things we just got rid of with more things

We do that with our spiritual lives as well.   We tend to go out and replace our sin with more sin.  But, with God’s help – we can keep this temple holy and clean.

Have you ever watched an episode of Hoarders on television?  This show often depicts a very serious psychological problem of people who cling to stuff for some reason or another.  And I’m not just talking about too many books for their shelves or too many clothes for their drawers.  They have so many possessions, they don’t have anywhere for them.  They end up stacking boxes on top of boxes, on top of trash, on top of clothes, and so on.

We look at these things with disgust – and we can’t imagine living in such filth, such disrepair, such chaos.

But I wonder,
if the Holy Spirit living inside of you could show you what your mind looks likewould it represent a heart that had been tidied up like a Marie Kondo home, or a spirit filled with possessions like an episode of Hoarders?

The bible tells us over and over again to take our burdens, our worries, our struggles, our sins – and place them at the feet of Jesus.  To allow Jesus to take control of this body, heart, soul, mind – and purify us as only He can.

Psalm 55:22 tells us to “Cast your burden on the Lord, and He will sustain you.”

Matthew 11:28 tells us to “Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and he will give us rest.”

Isaiah 41:13 says “For I, the Lord your God, will hold your right hand, saying to you ‘Fear not, I will help you.”

I Peter 5:6-7 says “Humble yourselves under the mighty hand of God, that He may exalt you in due time, casting all your care on Him, for He cares for you.”

Isaiah 46:4 says “Even to your old age, I am He, and even to gray hairs I will carry you! I have made, and I will bear; even I will carry and will deliver you.”

For some reason, we like to hold on to as much as we can, instead of letting our Almighty Creator bear our burdens for us.  We cram all of this junk into our hearts, we let it clutter our spirit, and before long, we can’t make sense of any of it.  But it’s time to let it go.

It’s time to start tidying up. It’s time to make room for Christ to work in your heart, instead of letting your fears, anxieties, worries, struggles, troubles – take up all the room and occupy a place in your head.

Here’s what you do.  Get into the routine of praying this prayer:  “Lord, anything that comes near me that can harm me, hurt me, cause anxiety, and the like – I’m just going to lay it at your feet and let you deal with it instead of bringing it into the house and letting it take up unnecessary space.”

My First Woodworking Project: A Loft Bed for My Daughter

When we began looking for a house here in Tampa, FL, one of the things that we noticed almost right away was that in our price range, the secondary bedrooms in most of the newer homes were tiny.  In the apartment we stayed in for two years, Josie’s bedroom was about 12′ x 13′.  In Nashville, her bedroom was about 14′ x 14′.  Now, her room is roughly 10’x10′.  She’s never complained about the size of her room – except that she wished there was more room to play and stretch out.

Her bedroom used to have a daybed given to us by some good friends – the Bybee Family – a long, long time ago.  After several moves, the thing finally just fell apart.  So unfortunately, since we moved in to our house in December, Josie has been sleeping on two twin mattresses stacked on top of each other in her room.  Needless to say, we needed to remedy that.

I wanted to surprise her, so last week, when my wife’s parents came in to town to stay at the beach for a week, I stayed behind a few days to get something done: A loft bed for Josie.

Understand this:  I’ve never worked with wood in any way.  I have never fancied myself as a DIY guy.  I like to watch DIY videos, dream about doing DIY things, but never had the tools or skill level needed to do much.  So why not start with a gigantic loft bed to place in your daughter’s room, right?

I scoured the internet for plans – and finally settled on about 3 different ones.  I ended up sort of merging some ideas together to get the final product.

I also had to buy a few things in order for me to get started.  I had a $300 Amazon Gift Card from a promotion from my internet/cable provider, so I used that to buy these two things:

A Rockwell Jawhorse Sheetmaster

Rockwell Jawhorse Sheetmaster. Could NOT have done this job by myself without this.

An inexpensive Hitachi Miter Saw

Once these came in, and after I got going, I realized my tool box was rather dry.  I had a few things, but not nearly what I needed to make this project go smoothly.  I figured I’d spend a few dollars and make an investment into what I hoped would become a hobby down the road.

So I also added:

A Black and Decker Orbital Sander

A cordless Black and Decker Circular Saw (went with this one because I already had 4 batteries from previous purchases that were interchangeable)

Irwin Clamps

Titebond II Wood Glue

I had a buddy from church that was going to help me with the build, and we were all set to go, but at the last hour, he texted me telling me his wife was going in to labor.  Can’t get mad about that!!  (By the way, the baby is doing well…)  The only problem was that he is very skilled at woodworking, and he also had a vehicle to put the lumber in!

I drive a 2006 Honda Civic, not a car known for it’s lumber hauling ability.  My wife’s car might could have handled it, but she had taken her car to the beach to haul all the vacation items.  So I rented a cargo van from Uhaul for $19.99 a day, a $10 collision waver, and 59 cents a mile.  I ended up paying about $50 total for the rental.  But it was worth it.

I got the van, and proceeded to my local Home Depot.  Mind you, I’ve never purchased lumber before, but I knew I needed good quality straight boards.  The bed would be built out of 2x4s, 2x6s, and a sheet of plywood.  I went through the boards, picked out the straightest pieces I could, and moved on to hardware.

For the build, I needed about 60 4″ hex bolts, and Home Depot didn’t have those.  They only about 20.  So instead I bought the 3 1/2″ wood screws I needed, the 2″ wood screws, the flat washers, the lock washers, and the hex nuts.  Then I loaded everything up, and went to Lowes.  They had the bolts I needed.  I also picked up a 3 pack of chisels.

I got home, unloaded, and then returned the van.  I finally got the project started around 1pm on Tuesday.

My stack of 2x6x8 boards, and my Hitachi Miter Saw.

My stack of 2x4x8 boards.

The first thing I did was start measuring out the wood for cuts and for drill holes.  Since I’m not very sure of what I’m doing, and since i had never done this before, I took careful steps to measure often, and cut once.  Same thing with the drill holes.

Remember, I live in Tampa.  It’s summer.  I’m working in my garage.  It’s probably 150% humidity and the temp was high as well.  It took me the better part of the day to get the cuts made and the holes drilled.

Stacks of my cut and drilled pieces.

Stacks of my cut and drilled pieces.

At the end of that night, I was able to assemble the tall side legs.  I used the glue, a 1/8″ drill bit to pre drill for the wood screws, and then clamped them together to assemble.

Assembling the legs. I glued them, clamped them, pre-drilled, and screwed them together with 3 1/2″ wood screws.

I then took these inside to Josie’s room, and crossed my fingers…and they fit!  The pieces fit!  I had already notched out the thin side of the mattress support rails, using that same 3/4″ circular saw depth, I went around the 2″ side of the 4 2×6 boards used for the support rails.  The plywood would set inside these notches.

Tall side legs before cross brace.

What I had to do next was temporarily put the cross brace on, so I could measure where I needed to make the cross lap joint.  I did this by using the circular saw set to a 3/4″ depth, and notching out the space for the joint, and then using a hammer and chisel to knock the pieces out.  I went back in, and the cross lap joint worked!  I joined it together.

Put the cross brace in place, marked, and notched out a cross lap joint.

I got those done, and promptly went to bed at about 1:30am.

I woke up in the morning early, and proceeded to put the other end of the bed together, the short side.  This side would house the ladder steps.  I was able to get that assembled, and put the 4 bed rails up, and then I left to go to work at about 9am.  I got back home after church that night about 9pm – and immediately began assembling the rest of it.  I was joining my family at the beach the next day, and didn’t have time to spare!

Short side of the bed assembled, with ladder steps, and the mattress rails in place as well.

Shot of the notched area for the mattress. A sheet of plywood will go here.

I put together the cross piece for the middle of the bed to support the plywood.  I also put together the back cross brace the same way I did the side cross brace.

The center brace for the bed, the plywood will sit on top of this, and in the notched area of the mattress rails.

Here you can see the back cross brace, done in the same manner as the short cross brace at the head of the bed.

After that, even though I wasn’t completely done, I realized the only thing I had left to do was cut the plywood, and make the shelf for the top of the bed.  I couldn’t make the shelf until I cut the plywood, so I decided that I would finish all that after Josie saw her surprise.

We came in on Saturday after vacation – and Josie saw her bed – she was stoked!  She was so excited (since it’s taken us nearly 7 months to get to it!  However, there was still some work to be done.

I got the plywood measured and cut with the help of my lovely wife, and then started work on the shelf.  The shelf went together perfectly.  I went ahead and sanded the shelf pieces, and then the final steps were underway.  We got the mattress plywood support on (which was actually the hardest part, since it was one of  the last pieces to fit in) and then put the shelf on.

Assembling the shelf to go on the top of the bed.

We positioned the bed, and put the mattress on, and Josie made inaugural climb to the top of the bed.  We realized as she was doing this she needed some handles for the bed (more on that later).  She made it, and was elated!  She was so happy!  Kristen climbed up there as well, and the bed was as sturdy as a rock.

Josie on her bed for the first time! It didn’t fall!

Kristen wanted to get in on the fun too!

On Sunday, I sanded the whole bed down, and then bought some handles for the bed.  I bought two bathroom wall handles that were 16″ long, and put them at the top of the step side.  I also bought two smaller handles for support.

So here’s the final product in all it’s glory!

Final product! Note the handles on the end.

Here’s a close up shot of the shelf at the top for Josie to put her clock on, and other knick knacks.

This was such a fun project to work on.  All said and done, it took parts of 3 days to finish.  I have already ordered her a clip on light, a clip on fan, and some lighting to go underneath the bed, so when I get around to making the desk to go on the bed, she’ll be able to see!

At this point, she did not want to paint it, she just wanted to leave it as is.  I think that’s because we told her it would take a few days to paint, and she was ready to sleep on it right away!  The only thing I have left to do now is take the ceiling and down and replace it with a simple flush mount light – until then the ceiling fan stays off!